Wednesday, March 28, 2012

"You is kind. You is smart. You is important"

Something that a former teacher of mine once said has resonated in my mind lately....

You may be small, but YOU are mighty.

It's the tough times when quotes like these make an impact on your life. There is not a day that goes by that I don't tell myself a lie: "You aren't good enough. You don't have what it takes. You're not pretty enough. Don't even try, it's not gonna get you anywhere" blah blah blah blah blah.

The lack of confidence and low self-esteem has always been a problem of mine. Didn't realize how much of a problem it really was until recently. I had ONE person give me their two sense, and I took it to be the end of the world and basically said to myself: "well, guess I'm really not good enough if people say so." I cannot believe how much power I gave to that one person.

Guess it took this situation for me to learn to not beat myself up over and over again. What's done is done. I did the best I could, and that's all that was asked of me.

My friends and family know exactly what this post is referring to, and have helped me so much with advice and a listening ear. I have bounced ideas off them and they keep saying the same thing, "you are more confident than you think." The good thing is-- I did take a stand today and I am not going to do the same thing I did in the past (which is wallow in my low self-confidence and low self-esteem).

I will end this post with a well-spoken quote:

"You is kind. You is smart. You is important." (from The Help)
Don't let others tell you differently


  1. This last year or so has not been the easiest for you as life seems to have thrown an entire arsenal in your direction without as much as a moment's respite. When one problem passed, it seemed that two others took it's place in what seems to be some horrible rendition of the mythical Hydra. Yet here you are, bouncing back, taking charge, and refusing to allow problems dictate the course of your life or of your happiness. Your blog title is very appropriate here as you have very clearly chosen to (as you put it) "Get Busy Living".

    Here are some words of wisdom from another "small" person:

    “Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indomitable will."

    "Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony."

    - Mahatma Gandhi

  2. Can I just say... I HEAR you! I have those feelings all the time, I think everyone does. It's hard not to get down on yourself, but even in those moments try to recount the people who love you, who need you, and who appreciate you. Recount things you are grateful for.

    My Husband taught me a trick. When you wake up start your day by saying out loud the things you are thankful for having. It's easy to get lost in what you don't have, or the negatives in your life. But, if you start your day with gratitude you will start on the right foot. Refocus when needed. We're all on this journey, and knowing you're not alone helps!